First off: Successful queer/genderqueer person. Second off: Ridiculously attractive. (P.S.: On a scale of 1 to 10, how erasing is it to refer to a genderqueer person as part of the queer community? THESE ARE THE THINGS THAT KEEP ME UP AT NIGHT)
We gave them plowshares, and they beat them into swords.
We gave them a hammer and told them to pound the nail in, and instead they kneecapped us and gave hammers to their friends to join in, until most of the people with hammers no longer knew what hammers were for.
We tried to teach them some tricks for making and envisioning a better world; they got the tricks through cultural osmosis stripped of context and, only shallowly understanding their nature, proceeded to use them to derail and disrupt activist discussion.
Well, screw you. Your ideas are secondhand and entirely unexamined. You can whinge about feminists all you want, but you fail to realize that you do it in the language and value system of feminism, and your argument will thus fall apart like wet paper in the hands of anyone who knows whereof you speak.